Amazing…Yes, It Is.

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I was once lost, and now I am found.  Each time we experience awareness we become awaken. We were once blind, and now we see. We experience a resurrection of sorts.  We bow our heads with humility and grace, knowing that we forgive ourselves for being less than perfect.  While we strive to succeed through grit, determination, and purpose….To make this day of life one more fulfilled with kindness, love, and the pursuit of happiness.

Some may want to circle thoughts back to shame.  Regret.  Wonder “why it took so long for this awareness” to become present.  My friends, don’t look back with regret or shame.  Wonder, yes, and wonder with curiosity the present day and if we wake again the days ahead.

We remember the pain.  We remember the hurt. We use its energy fuel and propel us forward.  In wonder, you may ask, “How many more awakenings and awakened moments will I experience in a lifetime?” That’s a profound question.  I hope many because the day we cease to become aware and awakened, is as Quinn states is “living death.” Be grateful those moments happen because some never have them happen. Now go out and make this day count because it does!

What do you think?  Share your comments!

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We meet people from all walks of life, with different education, backgrounds, and careers. Recently, Dr. Deb met with a person who is recently divorced after 50 years of marriage. Throughout the years he relied on alcohol to suppress stress. His question, “Why did it take me so long (to decide to make the change)?”
Awareness can be linked to questioning and understanding. Awareness can also be linked to judgement and shame. After reading his question, how many reading this post when to “questioning and understanding?” How many reading this post went to “judgement and shame?”
This man’s question was both. Dr. Deb’s help to him was seeing the value in both and acknowledging the decision. As Dr. Deb said, “Better today then never.” Thumbs-up to this man. He decided and is taking action.
What are your thoughts? Share them…

Survivor 2 Warrior: Part 3


Happy 4th of July, Everyone!

I know today is tough for a lot of people and as the day goes on it’ll get tougher. I’m living proof that yes, you can get your life back, start feeling normal and amazing. Relationships can get better, stronger, and the journey can be without being controlled by the triggers, hooks, pain, frustration, and anger (see attached info-graphic below).

Keep your questions and comments coming – I’m totally jazzed at the excitement and outreach of people connecting; completely honored and blessed to serve everyone – post your comments and questions at the end of this video, blog, twitter feed and again, I’ll be answering all questions in the next email and video and sharing with everyone – thanks a bunch!

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Survivor to Warrior: Why


1 of 3 Video Series: Survivor to Warrior (including the Why Game Questions…which is located at the end of the blog)

Dr. Deb Lindh Transform Stress into Something Valuable – Post-Stress Growth, Grow Resilience, Happiness and Peace from the Pain, Hurt, Fear, Disappointment, Frustrations, Being and Feeling Stuck, and Effects of Stress.  Series Includes First Step of the “Why Game.”

A favor to ask…yes, I’m asking for another favor (which really helps us help you) – post your comments and questions at the end of this video, blog, twitter feed and I will answer all questions in the second part of this series. Any questions you have, I’ll answer. We’ll be answering these questions and the questions from the stress survey – and sharing those with everyone –  thanks a bunch!

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Mindful Listening

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Through mindfulness I am a better listener.  I don’t mean some kind of Zen-like hear the sounds of waves, the rumbling of my stomach pre-lunch, or what the air feels like against my ears.  I mean listening as in to pay attention to someone or something and different than before; better than before.  I’d add to this the element of understanding; so, through mindful listening I hear someone or something, am aware of the message, understand the message, and possess the ability to mindfully respond; I experience a new level of listening through mindfulness.

So, what?  Right?  When could this really matter, make a difference, provide value….One practical usage is being caught off guard and asked a question (ever been caught off guard and have someone ask you to volunteer at the kids school that day and you say YES?! – yeah, we’ve all been there and done that!).  Mindful listening helps prepare us with responding…mindfully.  Another practical usage is when someone is trying to sell you something.

Take for example the guy who just called about selling me home improvement services.  I was deep in concentration when the phone rang. I answered the phone and it’s a telemarketer.  Yes, we have caller ID and sometimes when our kids call from school, it’s from an unknown number in a local area code – so, I answer knowing it could be them.   However, this time it was Jim.  Jim was nice and I’ve been there many times myself making cold calls.  I know how difficult this is and figured I’d hear him out.  Jim shared that his company XYZ is doing work in our neighborhood and wondered if we had any projects.  I asked, “Oh, which neighbor?”

Now mind you, before mindfulness it would not even have occurred to me to even think of let alone ask, “which neighbor?”.  I would have thought, “Cool, you’re doing stuff in our neighborhood…yeah, let’s talk.”  But now is different.  I am changed. I am better equipped with tools and skills – that work for me everyday, anywhere, anytime.  I am a better listener because of using my mindfulness techniques; they’ve become a part of me – reflexively.  I don’t even have to think  “Oh, use your mindful listening skills” because I’ve done it so many times it comes naturally.  And I’m fully aware.  Fully present.  Even though I got caught off guard.

Jim’s response though was taken aback.  He stumbled.  He fumbled.  He couldn’t find the words.  And what did come out was his company, XYZ, were not doing work in our neighborhood.

OH SNAP!

Houston, we have a problem.  Yes, a significant problem.  Integrity and trust are gone.  Not only for Jim but also for XYZ Company.  A lost sale – for sure.  It’s too bad and very unfortunate.

Calls like this happen all of the time, however, because of mindfulness I am better listener.  I ask questions that wouldn’t even have occurred to me (autopilot, zombie…distracted/not present) but I do now.

A value of mindfulness is being fully present and aware; beyond hearing someone’s words, thorough mindful listening I was able to uncover a common sales tactic that was dishonest and protect myself, my family, and my home – and my money!

Many telemarketers and scam artists call preying on people.  Some may argue and say, “use common sense.” I’d argue that we don’t know what we don’t know AND we don’t know HOW to do something different unless we’re shown and something changes. For example, saying to people “don’t give personal information over the phone” has no meaning unless we are fully aware and fully present –regardless of distractions.  And con artists are masters at distraction. Now I’m not saying that Jim and XYZ Company are con artists.  I am saying they use a sales tactic that is dishonest – and because of mindful listening – was exposed.

So, invest in mindful listening.  See what does it does for you. We can help; we offer a variety of in person workshops and online classes.

Share your thoughts – let us know what you think of this post and how we can be of service!

Mindful Change

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Change.  Change is constant yet people resist change.  There are many reasons why people resist change; everything from it’s too different from what is ‘normal’ to being forced to change.

Though this is true reality, so are the advantages to change.  I find that many people already know benefits of change.  Heck, I’ve feel the same way myself and can write a laundry list of benefits.  What I’ve found is that in the sea of reasons and benefits, people seek questions to help them with the process of first, deciding on to make the plunge (or not), and second, people are looking for help with knowing what to ask themselves.

I’ve listed a few questions to help with these needs.  These questions are mindful questions; they address surface problems and uncover root causes.  Read them over.  Sit with them for a while.  Write down the first 10 answers that come to mind.  Review the responses later that day, a day later, and then 1 week later; make changes and adjustments to your responses.  After a week has passed ask yourself and answer the question: What do I want to do? Then you’ll have an answer.  For now.  For this moment in time.

  • Mindful Questions to the Advantages to Change
  • What are the advantages? To me, personally?
  • What are the results? What will they be? How would I describe/communicate them to others?  **If the details are unclear, revise to the point where they are clear and you could explain to someone else.
  • How do the advantages fit with my values and beliefs, the stuff I know to be “true” from experience and with my needs?
  • How will this work for me? What is my overall sense or “test” to know that it’s working?

How did this work for you?  Share with me your comments and questions!

Mindful Eating – You are what you eat

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We know a lot about what to eat (fresh fruits and vegetables) and what not to eat (yeah, the whole bag of potato chips).  But what about the how, what, and why of eating mindfully?

Combining the how we eat, what we eat, why we eat with mindfulness means that we eat with awareness.  It’s not that people don’t already know that eating potato chips or fast and processed foods are not the best sources of nutrition.  People already know these food sources are not good for them.

So, why do we eat this stuff?  Why are we still grabbing the fast, quick, to-go foods?

This is where mindful eating brings “awareness” to what we are eating, why we are eating, and how we can develop a new relationship with food.

For example, when grabbing a handful of candy at the office ask yourself the question “Is this really what I want to eat? Why am I eating this…for a sugar rush because I’m tired?”  People might just find themselves understanding their real reasons and triggers for eating something.  For some, this awareness can be a big “ah ha” moment to make changes with eating habits.

Another example, when eating any meal, become aware of the foods on your plate, how fast you eat, and how the food tastes.  Often, people are in such a rush, eating a pile of food on the plate in record time becomes an automatic way of eating.  Instead, try sitting down at a meal and make the experience different by eating new foods, slowly enjoying a meal and savoring the flavors, or changing the dining environment.  While doing these new things become aware of the changes. You may experience feeling full earlier, notice the food tastes better, decide you no longer like a particular food, or the new surroundings may put you in a better mood.

By becoming aware and practicing mindful eating, people will begin to notice subtle changes emotionally, physically, and energetically; your mood, your body, and overall sense of self.  To further the practice of mindful eating, try keeping notes of your experiences in a journal or electronic tablet.  Review and use your notes of foods that make you feel better as part of foods to include on shopping trips.

Mindful eating is about taking time to enjoy eating, to be aware of what we eat, how we eat, and why we eat that ultimately cares for us in the best way emotionally, physically and energetically.

Please share additional tips in the Comments section or on our twitter feed.

 

Change…

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Change.  Looking up the word ‘change’ generated over 2 million search hits on Google.  It’s time for change.  Over the next few weeks and even months, the Dr. Debra Lindh website will be going through, well, change.  Yes, this is true.  Change is often difficult to embrace.  Some people do embrace change, while others shy away and even some completely avoid change.  I’m fully embracing this change.  Thinking of change, these quotes came to mind, “when one door closes, another opens,” “a chapter ends, and another begins,” and “things do not change, we change.”   At the same time, thinking of change has brought these songs to mind:  Don’t Go Changing by Billy Joel, Roll With the Changes by REO Speedwagon, and Changes by David Bowie.

I found it interesting that as I planned for change, I noticed that change was already happening.  Everything from planning out the changes, the details, meeting with people to discuss ideas, and putting into place some of the ‘doing’ items.  So, what exactly is changing with the website, what does it look like, and what does it mean for you?  Here are some of the answers:

  1. Stress.  The Dr. Debra Lindh website is a resource for stress research and consulting; particularly in the areas of occupational stress and employee wellness at the individual, group, and organization levels. This means that sharing of current research, case studies, and publications as well as other resources.
  2. AIR.  This is an acronym for the process known as AIRwhich means: Assess, Integrate, Results.  This is the type of work I provide: to assess stress, integrate a stress reduction intervention, and measure results.  Why integrate and not implement? I recently said to someone, “Implement means to do.  Integrate means to become.” Thus, people learn a new still that becomes part of them which then reduces stress.
  3. Quantum OD.  Quantum ODinvolves the application of integrating energy-based practices rooted in quantum physics and cultural traditions from Asia, Europe, and the United States to promote transformation and development for individuals, groups, and organizations.  Quantum ODworks with subtle energies associated with intuition, consciousness, and energetic levels.  These energy-based practices are recognized and practiced by colleagues in organization development as well as psychology and recognized by professional associations such as the American Psychological Association and the Association for Comprehensive Energy Psychology.

Other changes and additions are part of the planning. The above list is a few details with more to come.  Of course, on Twitter I continue to share “Mindfulness Monday” and “Mindfulness Tip” postings as well as supporting images on Pinterest.

Commitment

During this time of flux, commitment is in the forefront. The question to ponder, reflect, and ultimately answer is: Are we willing to do whatever it takes?

This is different than hooking on details, history, past decisions, mistakes, goals, etc. When making this decision, we can no longer hold on to what prevents us from moving forward. It doesn’t mean we forget, it means we keep the memory without being bound and stuck in the emotion.

It is about the present. Right now. This moment.

The choice is the answer. And the answer will manifest the future.

The Creation of Something New….

Change.  Change is good.  Change is scary.  Change is uncertain yet exhilarating.  Right? Well, it is if you’re an inventor, entrepreneur, a risk taker..someone who likes a challenge. That pretty much sums up life as Debra Lindh.  And one of the main reasons why I’ve decided it was time to change my website.  I’m always looking for ways to do things better.  The rapid changes of technology allow me to review and examine the “latest and greatest” techie gadgets.  Not to mention that my husband is a technology gadget person who is always saying, “Deb, you just gotta check out this ______(fill in the blank)!”  Generally, he is spot on!  I still cannot believe I held out so long on the purchase of my I-cannot-imagine-my-life-without-my-iPhone…it’s still mind boggling.

Typically, inventors and entrepreneurs are very much into the latest and greatest, however, at the same time we are extremely resourceful folks!  We take pride in making something out of nothing…or making something last way beyond it’s typical lifespan…which means sometimes we hold on to stuff because it’s stuff we made or have endured and made it do stuff beyond it’s capabilities.

Nonetheless, my first post is about creating something new…which is the official website for Debra Lindh.  Why did I create this?  Well, I needed a place for clients to see what I’m doing, a way for people to contact me, and a way for me to reach out to you!

What you’ll find from this site is various types of information, a lot of sharing, some lighthearted factoids, a bit of theory and research, and a lot of practical ways to use and apply the information.

So, please join me in celebrating a new milestone – post a comment, follow me on twitter connect on LinkedIn, or send an email!

All the best,

Deb